CouldyouJustLISTEN?

Heres an extract i took from somewhere :

Titled - COULD YOU JUST LISTEN?

When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving me advice, you have not done what I asked. When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why i shouldn't feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings. When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my porblem, you have failed me - strange as that may seem.

Listen! All I ask is that you listen, not talk or do. Just hear me.

When you do something for me thaty I can and need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear and inadequacy; but when you accept as a simple fact that i do feel what I feel no matter how irrational, then I can quite trying to convince you and get down to the business of understanding it.

Irrational feelings make sense when we understand what is behind them. And when that is clear, the answers are obvious and i dont need advice.


So please... just listen. If you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn, and I will listen to you.